My friend is angry at me for confronting her about cutting herself advice?

I told my friend that I know she cuts herself and she just got defensive and eventually hit me! what can I do to help her without upsetting her more?My friend is angry at me for confronting her about cutting herself advice?
She shouldn't have hit you, at all, it doesn't matter how many problems a person has, it's still wrong.





But you probably shouldn't have tried to pry, you should have let her tell you if and when she wanted to, or at least tell her you were worried about her and she could talk to you IF she wanted to.





I think you should apologise and she should too. And then tell her that you're there for her if she ever wants to talk.My friend is angry at me for confronting her about cutting herself advice?
the best thing you can do for her is be a friend. Let her know that you are there for when she is ready to open up. Be persistent but not pushy. Explain to her that you really care about her and you want to see her get well.





Do some research on the internet. Find other methods for her to deal with it. For example a happy box. She does a box and writes on little pieces of paper things that make her happy. She also gets her friends to write why they like her or think she is cool. She puts them into the box when she feels bad she can look at it to help her distract from cutting.





Also tell you to call you when she gets the urge and you can have a chat that way it takes her mind of it.





Also a rubber hand helps. she puts a rubber band on her hand. When she feels the urge she pulls it and flicks herself with it. It causes the pain and the release she is craving but doesnt inflict to much harm.





Its very hard if she is not ready to open up to you (or anyone else yet) but with your help and gentle persistence you can help her seek the help she needs.





When she gets over this stumbling block she will be very happy she has such a good friend like you who stuck with her in her darkest hour
If you are worried about your friend about her cutting first thing that makes a cutter angry is someone close to her/ him finding out that they cut.


Just be there for her. Maybe ask her if she brings it up why she does it.





Don't assume that she cuts to attempt suicide cause that is not always the case
as a recovering self injurer, i can tell you from experience that a good friend willing to listen can be the best medicine. take a more passive approach. tell her you're sorry for confronting her before she was ready and let her know that you're there to talk about anything anytime she needs it. leave it at that. she won't be receptive to help until she's ready. the best thing you can do is to stay her friend, and keep an eye on her to make sure things don't get too out of hand. if you want to talk, feel free to email me, i'm open to anything! good luck!
Hello,





I agree with AndreA and Ellie... you need to show an open mind, as you don't want her to feel judged by you.





I would also venture to say that if you found out, it may be that she let you, hoping to start a dialogue with you. But your confronting attitude put her off.





Be accepting, without approving. It's a tight rope to walk, but if you are pro-active and give advice, you could just lose her...





Good luck!
Nothing, it's none of your business. As harsh as that sounds it's the truth. All you can do is offer to be a shoulder to lean on. Ultimately she is the one that will have to make the attempt to seek help. You confronting her did nothing but make it worse, so no more of that.
Call 800-DONTCUT for advice.
If I'm remembering correctly, cutting releases endorphins in the brain to deal with the pain. Those same endorphins can be released by eating dark chocolate or working out.
If she hit you, then tell someone. Other than that I would suggest to drop this person as friend. Who needs that sort of trouble if it can be avoided?





Kristi
Just be there for if she want to open to you let her if not just be her friend that what all she need.
How old is your friend? Tell her parents or a counselor at school?