My husband and I are currently trying for our first child. heck yeah i'm nervous!!!! For a few months we went back and forth.....we both felt like we wanted a child, but would wonder...can we REALLY afford one now, are we ready to sttle down and make a child top priority over our own social lives and jobs and etc? Its a big decision. and it shouldn't be taken lightly!
I think its a really good sign that you're thinking seriously about whether now is the time to have a baby or not. If the two of you are ready to make the commitement, and think you're ready to support a baby and all that it needs...then go for it!!! We finally decided that we needed to just go for it, and figure we'll always worry about whether we're really ready or not....whether its our first second..etc.
Best of luck!!!We want to be pregnant. (Sort of). Any advice to the weary?
im having my first (due next month) and yes im nervous as hell but just as excited. the unknown is always scary and if you ask me no one is every really ';ready'; to have a baby...you could always find a reason to wait be it to save more money, or become more stable, etc, etc...you kinda just have to jump in and learn as you go. most dads that are leary of having a kids isnt because they dont want one, its because they realize they gotta grow up and it means the big R word...responsibility! lol but once the baby gets here it will more than likely melt his heart and you will know it was the right thing to do. LUCK!
You two are way to young to start having kids... 20 and ready to give up your youth... LOL. There should be a law that says you can't have any kids till at least 27.. When you look back in your 30's to this time in your life I can guarantee you will say ';What the hell was I thinking!?';
it's impossible to be ';sort of'; pregnant.
Well, I'll qualify my answer by saying I think you are pretty young to be thinking about having a baby, but you seem to have a pretty stable life, so here goes.
Having a baby is freakin' scary no matter when you do it. I am 29 and my husband is 35, our baby is 10 months old. We waited 7 years after we got married to have him and we were still terrified while we were trying (which took awhile) and when I was pregnant. Saying that ';your whole life changes'; when you have a baby is the understatement of all time. Everything changes, but the biggest thing that changes is you. The way you feel about yourself, your husband, your parents and your past, your friends, etc. - it all changes. So if you have ';unfinished business'; as far as your personal development, get that taken care of first before you have a baby. Especially if you have unresolved issues from your childhood - get those worked out so you don't drag them into your parenting of your own child.
If your marriage is strong and you feel like you're ready, then go for it. You will never feel 100 percent, completely without fear about having a baby and once you are pregnant or after you have your baby, the fear becomes magnified. Fear is part of being a parent. Anything can happen. All you can do is do your best to manage your situation and provide the happiest, most loving, most stable environment for your child. And be ready to put ALL of your own needs - for sleep, for the bathroom, for time to yourself, for time with your husband - to the side for many months and/or years. If there's anything going on that will interfere with that, it's best to wait.
I am 20 weeks pregnant and I still wonder from time to time what I was thinking. I am 31, so the clock was ticking. You do have youth on your side, so you can take a little longer if you'd like. One thing is, it does change your relationship with your husband and life will never be the same.
Good luck deciding. Only you can know for sure when you are ready.
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