one of my oldest friends(literally shes two years older than me) got knocked by a guy who than left her when he found out about it,she has been hurt by alot of guys in the past and I want to help her out with this,I owe her that much,but I don't want to be saddled with all the responsibility. honest answers would be appriciated.No idea what to do,advice would be helpfull?
To sad to hear this, specially that still people are having unprotected sex . More sad to hear that people don't use protection and specially if they don't have a formal relationship or at least a responsible love one. What you need to do is support her and help her assume her responsibility as for the loser, jerk guy he doesn't deserve a chance. He had a chance to maybe form a family or at least and have the chance to be a good father. Tell her that a child is a blessing with or with out the ';father'; she can take whole responsibility and be a full time mom and take good care of her future baby and give that baby all her love and believe me her life will be changing starting NOW..But it can be for good if she has a positive attitude. After the baby is born then filed for child support so the jerk can contribute with a little of responsibility too, after-wards he is the ';father';... That way you can be protected and your baby too. In the mean while tell her to ENJOY her pregnancy and soon she will hold in her arms her baby girl or boy !!! Hopefully soon she will find a men to support her and accept her w/ a baby !...... Best Wishes and Good luck !!!No idea what to do,advice would be helpfull?
It shouldn't be a responsibility; that is your friend. If she is hurting right now what she needs is you trying to help her and console her; hopefully shes a responsible woman and that is something that you know and not I, but when in doubt the best thing you can do for anyone is pray for them because when we can't help God can. We all have been in bad relationships and the recovery is hard. But being her friend does mean sometimes you will have to take on responsibility just like sometimes she might have to return the favor. That's what true friends do. I pray she comes through this alright!
It should not be your responsibility for her and her actions. You can be her friend and support her and help her through the tough time that she is going through but you dont have to think that you need to buy her everything and like pamper her because that's not true. I know you feel bad for her but just offer her a lot of support and advice when you can. I also think that you should call around to places that could help her like planned parenthood so that she can get some help if she wants to keep the baby! Take care!
be there for her, happened to me, no one was there for me and I mean no one. 12 years later I still cant recover from no support, its hard, Be a friend, theres not many out there. god bless you!
Knocked? Do you mean like sex? Pregnant? Be there for her and throw her a baby shower.
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