I'm in love with a married man and I tried everything possible to keep myself away from him. I know it's my fault and that I should have known better. I learned it the hard way. I prayed every night for my wrong doing and am trying very hard to move on.I fell in love with a married man and it is so hard to stay away from him. Any advice?
Evaluate the pros and cons. Be honest about what you want out of life.
We all make mistakes and bad choices. That is what life is about...learning from them! If you know this is wrong, and that it will hurt you and affect you for a long time, then seek professional help.
Stop seeing him and avoid all contact.Change your email and phone numbers. If he tries to reach you, be unavailable. I know it will hurt and it will be hard, but think of him as an addiction you need to quit because it is harmful for you.
God will help you, but you need to act as well. Be strong and make a list of reasons why you need to stop seeing him, and read it every night and again every morning. Chances are, after some time, he will give up and stop contacting you. But he needs to see that you REALLY mean it when you said ';It's over...!'; IF he sees you are hesitating, he will do just about anything to try to convince you to go back to him.
Good luck.I fell in love with a married man and it is so hard to stay away from him. Any advice?
I feel sorry for you. I know what you feel for this man is strong but as you said he is married and it wouldn't be right to come between this. Now as far as it being your fault, I can't agree with that. It takes two people and your not the only one at fault.
I would avoid him by not going to him, stop answering phone calls, do not go around him at all or where you know he hangs out. You need to start looking for new things to do to occupy your time. Find you a new friend to hang out with that you can have fun with.
I wish you the best of luck! My prayers are with you. I commend you in what your doing to stay away from this married man! I know some selfish people that wouldn't care and that is just wrong!
Go away on vacation by yourself or with friends (someplace like the caribbean or europe)
Call your DAD and ask him for advice..he will be thrilled to know his little girl is throwing her life away!
Call your MOM and ask for advice..she will be thrilled to know her little girl is whoring herself out to a loser.
Call his WIFE and ask her opinion..I am sureeeeeee she will have some choice words and advice for you.
Call his CHILDREN and look into their faces and realize you are stealing their future by your selfishness.
Go to the gym and work out... take boxing lessons..
get a second job. if you have no time you will have no time to chase a married man
get rid of your cell phone..no phone and he cant call you and you wont be tempted to call him
change your home phone.
volunteer
get checked for stds if he is cheating with you..he is cheating somewhere else too!
find some self respect..since you don't respect the wife, or marriage in general, or your parents, or his children...try to respect your future. try to imagine..how you would feel when you have a crows foot or two around your eyes, some stretch marks from bearing the love of your life's child..and realize that he is whoring around with some stupid little pie eyed tramp.
does it hurt? then don't do it to someone else.
get busy...keep your mind occupied and off the loser.
Just think how you would feel if you were in his wife's place. You must put a stop to this and never under any circumstances see him again. There is someone out there who has no comittments. You are special, find someone you don't have to share. As for you saying it is your fault, you are not in this by yourself.
people do what they want to do, obviously, so if you really want to, you will leave. otherwise there will be serious repercussions if you don't..
Figure it out and do it. It's a waste of your life. I'd be careful about praying and then returning to the married man. God might get a little miffed and send a big lightning bolt your way!
If you really want to get away from him call his wife and rat yourself out. I'm sure she'll do a good job of keeping you away.
The best way is to get involved with something or someone else right away.
think to yourself if u two did stuff how r u to know that hes not going to do that to u also hes doing it now right do u understand what i mean if not im me k
Move on/expand your world.
do not go back to him. DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM. i don't even care if that involves chaining yourself to a radiator.
Poor girl.
I congratulate you for trying to do the right thing. It is so hard, but you are not giving up. God will help you. When you're facing temptation that seems too strong, it's good to pray - every day - this part of the Lord's prayer : ';Lead [me] not into temptation.'; Sometimes God is going to allow you to be tempted, and the temptation is going to start with daydreaming about this guy. Try to think about a Scripture verse when he comes to mind, to get your mind off thinking about him. If you are having difficulty getting him off your mind, pray for him when you think about him, that his marriage will be strong, and pray for yourself that you will do the right thing; and then quickly change your thoughts to something else. All of us have to deal with temptations, of whatever kind, in our thoughts - you're not alone - there is no one who is not tempted to think the wrong thoughts - whether impure, angry, greedy, or whatever, we are tempted to think wrong thoughts. When wrong thoughts come to my mind, I may WANT to think about them - sometimes I have to pray that God will make me want to think the right thing. Thoughts are the root of actions, so if you can resolve this problem while it's still just a thought, you won't go on and do or say something inappropriate towards this guy.
You are going to be tempted the most when you have time to think about him - when you're not busy during the day, or when you're driving, or when you wake up in the morning or as you're in bed falling asleep. During the day, you need to keep your mind occupied with other things - like Scripture verses, or whatever you are doing at the time. Try not to spend a lot of time alone, because that's when you will be tempted the most. Spend a lot of time with your friends, or call or IM them, or whatever, so your mind stays occupied with them and not thinking about him. At times you can't spend with your friends, get involved in some hobby of yours that requires a lot of concentration, so your mind stays busy. When you're driving, listen to books on CD, music you like that doesn't remind you of him, or something that keeps your mind occupied. Do whatever you can so you don't lie in bed a long time when you're not asleep, because you will start thinking about him. Replace thoughts of him with thoughts about Scripture verses, praying for him, or planning out your next day, or whatever it takes to get him off your mind. It's hard, when you're in love with someone, not to think about that person all the time - that is absolutely normal. You are trying to stop doing something that is natural - that is hard - so it's going to take drastic steps and won't always be easy. But God will help you, and thinking about him less and less will help you to move on.
I really hope this helps.